Why lying to yourself is the worst thing that you could possibly do!
Ok, so first off I want to thank you for continuing to follow and also to congratulate you if you're following along with me!
Today I want to talk a little bit about honesty. No, I'm not talking about lying to partner about liking their parents. I'm talking about honesty about yourself to yourself. I can see you all rolling your eyes now. I bet your expecting me to do some shmultzy "talk to yourself in a mirror" thing. No. That annoys even me.
Let me tell you a short tale about how what I considered "confidence" and "comfort" with myself was actually just a big pile-o-denial.
I've always been a confident girl. I'm overweight, yeah, but I carry it pretty well and I've always been of the "If you don't like it, don't look at it" opinion. (Granted, I always dress myself appropriately for my size.) The rare moments when I was unhappy with my body I didn't really share with anyone, and most of the time I was comfortable with my weight. I would make jokes about it and my friends and family would chastize me and correct me. I would laugh and say "awww, thanks." Little did I know that I was letting them contribute to my denial. You see, by making a joke out of it I wasn't taking it as a serious matter (and it is!) and then by allowing my family to correct me I was essentially letting them tell me that I'm not fat. It fed my denial.
Now, I completely believe that it is a good thing to be comfortable with yourself. I think its important for women of all shapes and sizes. However, being over-confident lets us evade the truth.
So I have made the choice to be open about my weight. Not only because I think that it will keep me on track, but because being honest with myself and my family and friends about my weight is a constant reminder of WHY I am doing what I am doing. The minute I deny the truth, is the minute I forget why I'm changing and I go off track.
Today, I said something about being fat and a darling friend of mine corrected me. I stopped her, and I reminded her that by correcting me she was creating a sense of complacency and acceptance about what I consider to be completely unacceptable now; something I am trying to change. In essence, its like reinforcing an alcoholic or an addict.
So now, I am going to challenge you. I'm going to challenge you to be honest to yourself. I'm going to challenge you to refuse to accept the false sense of complacency.
Be TRUE to you. Be Honest about these few things.
I am overweight.
I am changing.
I will be healthy.
I'm doing it. I KNOW I can succeed, and I know you all can too.
So, honesty! It works!
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2 comments:
I think this is a really, REALLY important issue to acknowledge. In my opinion though, it is less about the individual acknowledging the state of their body (because I think deep down they know) and more about the "supposed" support structure that is actually feeding (apologies for the pun) into the individual's complacent attitude toward body image.
Well put.
Thanks Mkat. I also think its very important to acknowledge and I hope that people understand the potential severity of complacency. Its also important to mention that family and friends can build a supportive relationship and atmosphere without being overbearing as well - being overbearing and forceful often causes people to shut down. Its technically a fine balance - if you push too far in one direction, or let it slide too far in the other, negative results happen.
Thanks for reading!